At our Denver Respark Therapy Office, Mckenna Paulsen, specializes in helping couples in fun and productive therapy, sparking love, and relationship coaching involving match making! Mckenna has a deep passion for spreading light and love, and it shows up in her work with our clients (both in individual therapy and couples and sex therapy). Her dream as a child was to be in love, and help others fall in love. When she found out she could be a sex therapist, she couldn’t believe it. “You mean you can get paid for helping people talk about LOVE?!”
Mckenna is also passionate about helping her male clients. She has a strong suit in helping men persevere through issues around masculinity regarding sexual dysfunction issues. McKenna is also passionate about Eastern Medicine and is interested in getting her certification in herbalism.
Schedule with McKenna now to get involved with one of Denver’s best couples therapist and sex therapist!
Here are some of the questions and answers from our video interview above.
What are the top 3 items on your bucket list?
Three things I feel like I have to do within this life are to travel to India, to go back to school to get my doctorate degree and to study herbalism. India is a very spiritual place to me. A lot of what I personally believe spiritually derives from Hinduism.
I believe education is one of the best ways to invest in yourself and into your community so being able to have my doctorate degree is a big goal for me.
Herbalism to be able to help support the body and it’s optimal functioning. Right now, my career is mostly focused on the emotional component of a person. One day, I would like to be able to incorporate the physical and spiritual self where it fits into the needs of the client.
Who is your sexual role model?
I have a lot of people within the field that I look up to but for someone outside of the field I would actually say Kristen Bell.
I think that Kristen Bell and Dax Sheperd push the envelope for what a traditional marriage can really look like. They are a great role model for other couples in terms of their ability to fully love and accept one another but also be so authentic about their sexual and emotional struggles. They are a reminder that things don’t have to be a fairytale or perfect for it to work out and be healthy and fulfilling.
What’s your advice to someone wanting to become a couples and sex therapist?
My advice is to read everything. Seriously, everything. Soak up information through Instagram, podcasts, books, formal training and from supervisors. When I was in high school, I would read forums on various topics to get an idea of what people struggled with and what ended up working for them. I would also tell them to be proud of the career path they are choosing. It’s a lot of fun, extremely rewarding, and great sex therapists are deeply needed.
What are your top 2 books that have influenced you and why?
It would be difficult to pick just two books as there are so many great books full of valuable information. I will say that one book that have impacted me most in my journey into being a counselor is “The Gift of Therapy” written by Dr. Yalom. This book gave me the permission to be myself within a therapeutic setting and to be honest and human with my clients. A book that I recommend to most clients is “Come As You Are” by Emily Nagoski. It provides a lot of wonderful education around the female body and female sexuality.
What are your favorite podcasts?
The couples therapist couch, I listen to it everyday before my sessions start. It gets me in the mindset for therapy and the host explores how to tackle various couple’s issues using various therapeutic models.
My other favorite podcast is Esther Perel’s “Where Should We Begin?” It’s a raw, beautiful and truthful journey through the experience of being in or conducting couples therapy.
Where is your next dream vacation?
My dream vacation is Bali. It’s tropical and stunning and would be a little bit of a spiritual retreat for me as well. My partner and I plan to go as soon as we can.
What are 2 of the most important things you do everyday?
The two most important things I do every day are a guided meditation by Deepak Choprah and listening to a new podcast every day. It’s a passive way for me to always be learning and to stay updated with what’s happening in the field.
What’s your favorite story to tell?
My favorite story to tell is that I realized I wanted to become a couple’s therapist By Watching Tyra Banks’ talk show after school one day. She had a couple’s and sex therapist on as a guest and I thought, What?! You can really do that? I want to talk about love all day! I thought it was a madeup job.